Tuesday, April 16, 2019

I am...

I am...
What are you? What are you supposed to be? What does society say you are? If I go by societies standards I'm pretty sure I'd appear to be pretty old fashioned. It has only been a few weeks since I started this journey of discovering what a true man is and I am finding out that it is a loaded question.  I'm fairly certain that if I asked people what their definition of a man is I would get different answers.  I have come to the conclusion that what I am designed to be is not one dimensional.

I understand this might not be for everyone, but for those who strive for more, I am right there with you, beside you, brothers in arms.  I recently read that woman are taking on more dominant roles as well as caring for the household. Keeping them together and handling the situations that arise, children being raised in single parent homes (which leans toward the women taking the parenting role.) I grew up in this environment. My question is, "What happened to all the men?". Where did we loose our way? This is a complex question that I won't go too deep into.

What I am trying to get at is that I'm discovering there is so much more to being a man than I have been taught or told by anyone else.  It is like a giant puzzle with each piece interconnected, one piece depending on another to make the big picture complete. If one part is missing the master piece is incomplete.

These are just a few characteristics I have discovered and try to apply in my life:
I am...
A Gentleman
An Example
A Leader
A Good Listener

I will admit I don't have everything down, I am far from a perfect man, much less a perfect husband.  I think the purpose is not to be perfect (aside from it being unrealistic) but rather to strive for it.  Constantly improving, constantly being better day after day. Like someone who workouts to get stronger, slowly making gains and adding plates to the bar. That is why I created this blog, to be able to share this journey, to constantly remind myself to be better and to slowly make progress towards my goal.  In addition, I hope to inspire others to join me on this journey.  Maybe even help someone avoid some of the mistakes I have made. Thank you very much for taking the time to read today's blog, I greatly appreciate it.  If you feel this might help someone please share it.  Also, leave your email to be notified when a new blog post has been published.

Be blessed,


  1. One cannot change without humility. It takes a life with a few twists and turns to steer you into the right direction. In acknowledging where your faults lie is where there is room to grow. As I read your blog I am inspired by you. I am deserving of someone who deserves these traits. You are portraying the perfect example of what is making its way towards me. Thank you for that!

  2. Your comment inspires me to keep going. I am doing the best I can to be a better. Thank you for joining me.


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